The Art Of Marriage (Shared Post)

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In the art of marriage the little things are the big things…

It is never being too old to hold hands.

It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude
of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humor.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.

It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.

– by Wilferd Arlan Peterson

Jesus Loves You. What about me?

“No power in the sky above or in the earth below- indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:39

God loves you…God saved you.

That is the message the Apostle Paul conveyed to an audience of non-believers, seeking to transform their hearts, as Jesus had transformed his.

You do not know me. You do not know what I have seen or what I have done… I am broken.

That was my response to Paul.

I am too broken to save. 

Even today, with confidence to say ‘I’m a Jesus girl’, trying to comprehend God’s love is a struggle.
My testimony is one of grief, childhood secrets, and looking-for- love decisions.

As an overcomer of family addiction, sexual abuse, and self-inflicted wounds, I knew the addition of sorrow and the division of family. I learned some childhoods were not sugar, spice, and everything nice.

I sought the world to fill the void of a little girl who felt unloved, unwanted, and ashamed.
There were so many times in my life that God felt far away.

The beauty is that even when I was distant from God in my heart and with my actions, God’s love was with me.

When a family member forgave what I thought was the end-all bad decision, God’s love was with me. When I was depressed and was encouraged to keep standing when I wanted to crawl in a hole…God’s love was with me.

It’s persistence, pressing, and continuous searching that now strengthen my relationship with God. In recent years when life has not gone as planned and I felt ‘why me’, I had to make the decision to follow Jesus, even when prayers were wrapped with tears.

I reflect on Paul’s message in Romans 8:38 NLT “…nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow- not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love.”

Nothing includes wrong done to us and wrong we have done.

When life feels cloudy with a chance of rain and small percentage of sunshine, press into God’s presence through prayer, reading his word, or request a prayer warrior to intercede on your behalf.

God’s love shows through acts of kindness, gentleness, and my favorite- friendship.
May God’s love wrap you while in the valley and on the mountaintop.

Jesus loves you.

Jesus loves me.

When Trusting in the Lord is Hard

 

This past month has been a whirlwind.

I started a new job in a new city…alone.

I had so many emotions to process, and that I’m still processing. However, I feel compelled to write.

I have inspiration and several drafts written, but as I continue to cultivate my craft and hone my skills, I feel obliged to withhold it until it’s ready…thus, I’m doing a #FlashBackFriday to a post that has inspired me to keep pressing into the unknown and to TRUST with all my heart.

When Trust is Hard

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